Hello Darlings

As a 26-year-old woman who’s solo-danced her way to the city that never sleeps—New York, I have to let you know that making friends in this bustling metropolis as an introverted soul has been both a challenge and an adventure. If you’re like me, more of a stay-inside-and-read-a-book kind of person, fear not. In this blog, let’s delve into the reality of forging friendships in the city that’s always on the move, and discover some practical tips to make the process more engaging.

If you haven’t noticed by now, I’m the kind of person who thinks a Friday night in with a good book is pure bliss. And guess what? That’s perfectly okay! The first step in this friendship tango is embracing your true nature. Recognize the beauty in your solitude, value your deep listening skills, and don’t let societal expectations define your worth. After all, being introverted in a world that celebrates extroversion is like having a superpower—they just don’t know it yet!

Get our armor ready ! The first step is battling an old frenemy of mine — Social Anxiety.

The truth is, it’s a hurdle many of us face. The trick? Take it slow. Start with baby steps. Maybe dip your toes into low-pressure events, or explore the vast world of online communities. Gradually exposing yourself to social situations can ease those anxieties, making the journey to friendship less like a sprint and more like a leisurely stroll in your favorite park. If it makes you feel any better, we are in the digital age, where making friends is just a click away. Online platforms are a treasure trove for a reclusive like me. Join communities, forums, or social media groups tailored to your interests. Dive into meaningful conversations, offer your unique perspectives, and who knows, you might find a friend who shares your love for staying in and binge-watching K-Dramas.

One of the joys of being in the city is the plethora of activities catering to every interest imaginable. Whether it’s reading, painting, or playing the ukulele, there’s a club or class for it. Pursue your passions, join like-minded folks, and let the shared activity be the backdrop for forging friendships. It’s like finding your own tribe in the city’s diverse landscape. Making friends, especially for us adults, demands a bit of initiative. Step out of your comfort zone, initiate conversations, and suggest activities. It might feel like walking a tightrope over Times Square at first, but trust me, the city rewards the brave. Be the one who sends the first text, and soon enough, you’ll find yourself with a social circle that values your charm.

In the concrete jungle, making friends as an introvert is like mastering a new dance. It’s challenging, it’s intimidating, but oh, is it rewarding. Embrace your introversion, conquer social anxiety at your own pace, utilize the digital playground, pursue your passions, and be the proactive force that shapes your social landscape. Quality friendships, after all, are like the hidden gems of New York—sometimes you have to explore a bit to find them. So, my fellow homebodies, here’s to building a social circle that celebrates your solitude and enriches your city adventure. Until next time, keep dancing to the beat of your own drum!

With Love ,

Anna H.